tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6585871026832343653.post2194751665089731048..comments2023-08-15T06:51:55.957-07:00Comments on Evergreen Dreams: Resentful or Whining?Erika.Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09235545127771557007noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6585871026832343653.post-2125035884571352452009-08-07T09:23:42.513-07:002009-08-07T09:23:42.513-07:00OMG it is scary because when I read your blog and ...OMG it is scary because when I read your blog and Shana's...I hear myself at times. I've done this/felt this way with both my ex husband and current husband...and realize it's a common thread---that goes back to me and how I deal with things and people. I just need to open up and talk about stuff more. (I also need to get the courage to go seek help for my OCD/Anxiety and not just try to deal with it alone anymore)Retro Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09259322078514798788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6585871026832343653.post-34308681093144415332009-08-07T07:42:47.358-07:002009-08-07T07:42:47.358-07:00Well good news I spoke with my husband and told hi...Well good news I spoke with my husband and told him what I was feeling and why and everything turned out great!!! Thanks so much for the support and advice friends.Erika.Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10319611209772671036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6585871026832343653.post-14679106789150722092009-08-06T19:53:21.445-07:002009-08-06T19:53:21.445-07:00I hear you. For a while, my husband bore the brunt...I hear you. For a while, my husband bore the brunt of my resentment from OCD too. I was so worn out from obsessing all day, and then the littlest thing he would do (or not do) would set me off and I'd be so mad at him...and he was clueless that I was feeling that way. It was only after I realized A. that it was happening, and B. that it was irrational, was I able to work on it. And it's taken a lot of work! Sometimes, I still find vestiges of the old annoyance and hatred flaring up. But I found that he was almost just as annoyed as I was at times. The only thing that really helped us (as painfully agonizing as it was) was to talk to each other about how we were feeling. I think you're right, you don't want to hurt your husband's feelings. But sometimes it makes things worse if he doesn't know what you're feeling (even if it is irrational in his opinion.) I'm rooting for ya.Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11114223183259204143noreply@blogger.com